I first met Hilary on the set of her music video 'Beautiful Heartbreak'. Of course after speaking to her for maybe as long as...oooo...30 seconds or so, I claimed that we were now BFFs.
We'd bump into each other here there and everywhere. Most of the times it was places Hilary was giving a presentation. At each presentation Hilary would both make me laugh and also inspire me.
In one of her presentations Hilary asks us to think of a word or phase that we can say to ourselves on a daily basis. One that will lift us and get us to stop thinking those negative thoughts about ourselves. We are invited to think of our word/phrase while listening to a beautiful song she sings and suggests that if we can't come up with anything the first line of the song is a good one. The song is "I am a Child of God".
Last night while listening to this presentation yet again (there are some people that you can listen to over and over again even if it's the same topic.) I thought of my words. "Yes...BUT..." are my words.
Strange I know but stay with me.
We tell ourselves negative things all the time. When I look in the mirror and see blemishes, wrinkles or those pesky hairs on my chin, I don't like what I see. When I look at the dishes in the sink or the toothpaste splatter on the mirror, I don't like what I see. I could dwell on those things and get really down about myself. About my appearance. About my poor homemaking skills. The list goes on...and on...and on...etc. Rather than do that I say 'yes...but...'
Yes I have those blessed chin hairs now, BUT, my husband still thinks I'm beautiful.
Yes I have big bouffy feet and can't wear cute shoes, BUT, I am comfortable in what I wear and how many people can say that about their shoes?
Yes there may be toothpaste splatter on my mirror, BUT, I have indoor plumbing.
Yes the vacuuming hasn't been done in awhile, BUT, people still like to come visit me and we always have a good laugh.
Yes I sing horribly, BUT, my kids loved me singing to them at bedtimes and I expect when the grand-kids come along they'll also be OK with me singing to them.
Think of what positive words you need to tell yourself everyday that will snap you out of those negative thoughts. Write them down. Stick them on the bathroom mirror. Say them over and over again until you start believing them...because you know what....they are TRUE. You ARE beautiful. You ARE strong. You ARE brave. You are ........
Yes I just may be all the negative things I hear in my head BUT I am loved, I am kind and I am fun to be around.